So This is Autism

A few months shy of starting my thirty-ninth year, I was diagnosed with autism. It was a prospect I had flirted with some years before, but a therapist I worked with at that time didn't see it. Working with a new therapist now, as a newly-married man struggling a little up the matrimonial learning curve,... Continue Reading →

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The Designs That Speak To Us

I'm not sure if this is an autism thing or if it's how I'd be if I weren't on the spectrum, but I can get obsessed with the design of things: I can't tell you how many toy spaceships I've bought through the years (and continue to display several of in my home), and I... Continue Reading →

Stiff: The Curious Lives of Autistics*

(* with apologies to Mary Roach) My autism diagnosis actually came about as the result of my seeing a new therapist for depression, a condition I've coped with, but never fully addressed, for my entire adult life. My wife helped me work up a list of potential therapists, and it's due to her insight that... Continue Reading →

Hannibal Lecter is My Spirit Guide

My last post kicked off an interesting conversation offline: my affinity for a particular story—which I've adopted as a useful (and suitably nerdy) metaphor for where I see myself now, the limitations I must grow beyond to move forward, and the lessons I must take to heart in order to do that—comes from a greater love for... Continue Reading →

Married (with Autism), Part 2

Reflecting on some of the bumps I've encountered as a married person with autism, it's been useful to remember that the longest of my past relationships (none of them having made it to marriage) have all ended at around the three-year mark, and that all of those have been ended by me. It reminds me... Continue Reading →

Married (With Autism)

So I got married in October '16, and diagnosed autistic in January '17. I went in for an evaluation at my wife's request: having a bit of background in youth development, my "lack of executive function" was glaringly obvious to her as she was (probably) considering murdering me over the distribution of wedding chores—talking to... Continue Reading →

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